Embracing your self worth will change your life! A friend recently confided in me that she needed help with her feelings of self worth. This is something that most people can relate intimately with; myself included. Here is what I shared with her.
The basis of self worth.
Where we base our self worth is essential for building our self esteem. We are living in a very competitive world where the fastest, smartest, prettiest, and wealthiest are celebrated. So what happens for the rest of us that don’t measure up to cultures ever changing standards? We need to find a strong foundation for our self esteem to grow. It may come as a shock, but that foundation is not in our appearance, education, job title, athleticism, or bank account. Our self worth comes from the knowledge that we are here for a purpose.
What’s our purpose?
Our purpose is to bless the world with the gifts and talents that God gave us. Our worth comes from our relationship with God, the creator of everything. Do you know that before your biological parents even met, God decided that the world couldn’t function without you? Once He had conceived of you in His mind, He set things in motion for your parents to be created, to meet, and to conceive you!
In Psalms 139:13-16, it describes how God carefully created you.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalms 139:13-16 NIV
When this was brought to my attention, it was life changing. I know that God doesn’t lie, so if my being in this world was so important to Him, I must be worthy. That is where I laid the foundation of my worth, in God’s esteem for me. Since I wasn’t willing to call God a liar, I had to believe it was true. I didn’t have any other choice. Once my self worth was firmly rooted in God’s esteem for me, I was ready to move forward. It no longer mattered what other people said about me, because I knew God loved me and I was precious in His eyes!
More proof of our worth.
Take a look at these passages from the Bible:
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10
“You are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you.” Isaiah 43:4
God’s love for us is all over the bible. In Ephesians 2:10 He declares that we are His masterpiece!!! Can you imagine that?! Let that sink in…You Are His Masterpiece… How can you not feel worthy knowing that? In Isaiah 43:4 He also says we are precious in His eyes, honored and He loves us! Knowing that only makes my feelings of worth increase!
It doesn’t say that I’m worthy in His eyes because of my bank account, job title, appearance, or athletic ability. I’m worthy just the way I am; and you are too! Just because you are a precious child of God you are worthy for whatever you want to achieve in life, wherever you want to be or go. YOU ARE WORTHY!
What’s next?
Now that you know that you are worthy in God’s eyes, it’s time to start seeing yourself as He see’s you. If you think of how you feel for a beloved child, niece, or nephew, start seeing yourself the way you see them. Start appreciating all the great things about you, and forgive the little foibles that may pop up. Pursue the dreams you have pushed to the back of your mind. Adopt the mindset that “If they can do it, so can I!”
If that seems too bold, start with smaller steps. Prove to yourself that you can do the little things, and then move on to bigger challenges. You are worthy of love, of the promotion, recognition for the incredible things that you do! Your voice matters, and people want to hear what you have to say. Stop worrying about what other people may say, because it really doesn’t matter. What matters is what God says, and He says you are more than worthy!
What are the benefits of knowing your worth?
The benefits of knowing your worth are endless. The first thing is increased confidence. Increased confidence is invaluable in everyday life. It will help you in the workplace, as you start speaking up for yourself, and sharing your ideas. Your personal life will blossom as you start initiating more conversations with strangers, and sharing your opinions with others. You will feel confident enough to go after that promotion, travel to an exotic location, write that book, or take those courses you always dreamed of.
Knowing your worth allows you to create the life you always wanted, as you won’t allow negative thoughts to hold you back anymore. It won’t matter what anyone else says, you’ll have the strength to do it anyway!
Affirmations for believing your worth.
Affirmations are positive phrases that you repeat to yourself until you believe them. They often replace the negative thoughts you’ve been saying to yourself. It’s best to write your affirmations down everyday in your journal, or your phone, and repeat them whenever a negative thought crosses your mind or your lips.
- I am God’s masterpiece, and I can do anything!
- I am precious in God’s eyes, and I will spread His love to others.
- I am worthy in the eyes of God, so I know I am worthy.
- God says I’m worthy, so why not me?
- I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13
- I know my value, and I will share it with the world.
- If God is for me, who can be against me? I will prevail.
In conclusion.
Building your self worth depends on the foundation you start with. Allowing your worth to be based in the standards of this world will leave you on shaky ground. Since a strong foundation is essential, place it in a source that will never fail; place it in God’s hands. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. He will never leave you or forsake you, and He cannot lie. Since He says you are worthy, place your trust in him and embrace your new found self worth!
If you would like more resources on the topic of self worth, I love this episode from Trish Blackwell’s The Confidence Podcast called Being Enough and Having Purpose #500. You can also check out my blog article My Confidence Journey, which gives a more detailed account of how I regained my sense of worth and confidence.
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