Wonderful words of encouragement
Wonderful words of encouragement mean the world to me! I’ve always needed to know I was doing a good job at whatever was asked of me. I’ve been working on Fibromyalgia workout videos for nearly a year and a half now. Doubts have caused many setbacks and pauses in the editing process. Recently a friend told me how cool she thought it was that I was doing it, and how much it was needed! I was blown away! Her comments gave me a new sense of purpose to get them finished and posted to Youtube.
Why are we cautious giving others encouragement?
When I told her how much her words meant to me, she was shocked. Surprisingly, she revealed that she had wanted to say something before, and almost didn’t hit send on the email. It turns out she was concerned about how I would take it, and whether she should do it or not. Why are we cautious about giving others words of encouragement? What may strike you as odd, is that it’s often the ones we think don’t need to hear it that really do!
Needing words of encouragement is not a sign of weakness. In fact in Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, it is one of the first love languages he mentions. Many people clearly need to hear they are doing well. Encouraging a baby to walk is so natural that everyone around joins in! With this in mind, why are we not the same with the adults around us? Saying “great job!” or “I love that idea” seems like such a simple thing to do. Yet we get nervous about what others will think. Alternately, think how awesome the workplace would be if everyone was built up for what they were doing well!
Being an intentional encourager
In fact, encouraging others rubs off on you too! When I encourage others, I get a serotonin burst from their positive response. This makes me feel great for the rest of the day! Thinking back to all my encounters, I don’t recall anyone actually being upset with me for saying “great job!”. Intentionally encouraging others does take a great deal of courage, but it’s so worth it. You’re words are free, and can change someone’s day for the better! Firstly they feel seen, and that their contributions matter.
For example, one of the thoughts that was holding me back was that no one would be interested in watching them. My friends comments shot that argument right out the window! Previously this thought would have dragged me down, now I have direct evidence that it’s not true! My friend can’t wait to watch the videos, which gives me the incentive to get them done, (even if it’s just for her).
This experience has shown me how important it is to encourage those around me. Even if I think they know how awesome they are, I’m going to tell them how I feel anyway. God often uses regular people like you and me to be His angels on earth. When God inspires you to lift someone up, do it! A few simple words or a smile is enough to show people they matter, and have value. Additionally you don’t know what they are struggling with that day, and your words can change their whole day, week, or year!
Words of encouragement conclusion
As mentioned before, words of encouragement are free! You don’t have to invest in expensive gifts to build up someone’s self esteem. Your words will lift them up and silence the self doubt that is holding them back, giving them the push they need to keep going. I challenge you today to become an intentional encourager. Be courageous and make someone’s day!
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